Dancing with the Shadows

We love, we cry, we fall, we rise, we are WOMAN.

So often we celebrate the light & the beauty, not really stopping to take a moment to see that there would be no beauty without the pain, there would be no conquering without the courage that fear pushes us into, & there would be not light to shine through without darkness beside it.

We women are beautifully complex creatures of the Earth who ebb & flow with the ever changes Seasons, rising & falling emotionally through the days, the weeks, & the months, never truly knowing where our emotions will take us next.

Before I found the Goddess (or rather she found me) I hadn’t embraced the full beauty & strength of what TRUE surrender means, letting my emotions rule over me. I now know that to surrender is to accept the truth of how things are, not how we want them to be, & by accepting the truth, this then gives us greater power over any emotions or situations with a deeper clarity in our hearts.

I used to turn away from my shadows, my hurt, my mistakes, & my tears, until I truly Awoke to the truth which is;

Everything wants to be seen, acknowledged, & loved…Even our pain’

They say ‘energy flows where attention goes’, this is true, but don’t think by giving energy to your pain that it will increase. Don’t believe that focusing on the shadows will make things worse. It all comes down to what the energy flow is & where it’s coming from; A place of love, or a place of fear?

The truth is, as long as the energy you are giving your pain comes from a deep intention of understanding, acceptance, forgiveness, love, & compassion, then giving your pain some ‘quality time’ may be just the thing your heart needs to let go & move forward. Think about it; How many times have you shared & released the emotional poison within your heart simply because someone have you their time to really hear you?


Fear is another huge part of the Shadow self, always getting a bad name, but how ‘bad’ is fear really?…

Fear has been part of us for centuries & is actually a hugly essential part of our survival. It is deeply innate within each of us, our primal ‘birth right’. Your fear is the first thing to let you know there’s is true danger about, it will rise in your energy to give you a warning. Unfortunately, when we then feel fear rising up again through venturing into the unknown, we automatically believe ‘something’ must be wrong, which is not always the case.

Over the years I’ve came to befriend fear & understand that when it rises in me it is for two reasons;

• It is warning me of impending danger that something is wrong & I need to act fast & listen,

• It is a signal that i’m about to do something truly courageous which is a doorway for me to grow.

How you decided which is which comes down to how aware you are of yourself & building a deeper relationship with fear which will help you in the ‘knowing’ of when it’s a warning, or when it’s a signal for incredible growth.

Like all our shadows, fear isn’t there to hurt out or keep you stuck, it’s too here to fuel your energy & guide you either to safety or to your greatness. Fear is what gives you the fire to overcome your obstacles & helps create your courage, which the next goes into build your inner strength, & it’s only through our courage & strength that we can grow into our greatest selves!…Something that just wouldn’t be possible with that initial whisper from fear.

So often then not we look to our pain, our fears, & our shadows with an energy of hate, resentment, or bitterness, trying our best to ignore it, as this word has taught us to ignore ‘bad behaviour’, but all this does is turn those quite whispers into loud screams then births more of this energy within our whole being, when really we should be embracing them when they arise, hearing their sadness, & even asking;

What are you trying to tell me?


Why are you feeling so sad?

(sometimes looking at our pain objectively can actually help us understand it more).

Then take some time to give yourself what you need, whether it’s alone time, a day snuggled up watching films, a day of crying & releasing or simply writing down your thoughts…

I’m giving you permission to just stop! Its OK to sometimes do nothing except be however you are in this very moment & know in your heart that the pain is a very normal part of our journey & that ‘this too shall pass’…It always does.

So embrace the shadows, love them, forgive them, understand them, & dance with them lovingly in your arms…Sometimes, that’s all they need.

~ Gaia Rose


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